07 May 2012

It's OK to be yourself

I love the way the internet allows us to communicate with people we would otherwise probably never come across. I love the way we can find people who share our specialised interests. I love the way current technology allows us to stay in touch on the go through blogs, websites, Twitter and Facebook.

But I don't like the way we keep comparing ourselves
to the public faces of other people.

We are all complex beings. I always think of each individual as having layers. We reveal certain layers of ourselves in particular situations, depending on how much trust there is. 

It's the same on the internet. Don't fall for the forever chirpy blog posts, nor feel inadequate because you don't have the same creative output/gorgeous body/happy relationships/amount of money that you read other people have. They're not showing you all their layers.

It's OK to be yourself. It's OK to take your own path in life.

We are all different. We all have self doubts and anxieties. That's part of being human. Just don't let internet glimpses of other people's lives fuel these feelings.

Celebrate the fact that you are you. Celebrate your uniqueness.

It's OK to be yourself.


  1. Amen! It's only natural (indeed sensible) that people edit and filter what they publish in public media but, as you say, that is not the complete picture. That's why spending time privately (whether online or in person)with people is important too.

  2. Beautifully written Erica!

  3. Anonymous12:00 pm

    Well said!

    There are things all of us can, and sometimes should, keep behind closed doors.
    Other things we share between friends in private settings.
    Then there are things we can shout from the roof tops about.

  4. I was just mentioning to a colleague that someone we both know, who I also connect with on Facebook, gives an almost unrecognizable self-portrail there. You are quite right that it isn't the whole story about anyone.

  5. Anonymous1:41 pm

    Thank you for the reminder that the stories people tell in public do not always the give full the picture. We should follow our own goals with out due influence from others.


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